This article is written in the first person (using "I" and "me") because the scriptures apply to me, a believer in Christ. They also apply to you, and every other believer. This also provides for clarity, and makes the message personal as you read it to yourself.
by Norman Edwards
If you ask the above question to 10 Bible students, you might get 10 different answers. They might say "turn the other cheek", "forgive them", "tell them to repent", "apply just judgment", "stay away from them", "worry about your own sin", etc. All of these answers and more occur in the Bible.
What I should do about the sins of others varies based
on the nature of the sin, who is sinning, who they are sinning against,
their relationship to me, and who knows about it. Does that mean that
God treats people fairly. He knows our intents and has the power and capacity to deal with all sins of all people. He understands what is best for people in the long term whereas we usually do not. It is because of our limited capacity that we must deal differently with different people in different situations. In setting up His laws for humans dealing with the sins of others, God had to limit the amount of damage that could be done if we falsely accuse another of sin.
Sins That Dont Concern Us
If I see one person sinning against another, in a place for which I am not responsible, I should leave them alone. As an example, suppose I see two people violently fighting, but they see me and neither wants my help, and they are not on my property, I should not get involved. Neither should I go about talking about this to others, as I do not know the situation and whether it has been resolved, who has repented, etc.
There are circumstances where I should decide to speak up: To continue the previous example, suppose that a good friend of mine tells me that they are considering getting a new room-mate or beginning to date someone and it turns out to be one of the two fighters described above. It might be good to let the friend know. I personally know of a case where a woman dated and then married a man who had committed a violent crime. A close friend of hers had been an eye-witness to the aftermath, but thought it was not her place to tell the woman. After two children and a failed marriage, the friend finally told her much too late.
Sins Against Me by an Unbeliever
If a person sinned against me in Old Testament times, I would take it to the judges appointed in the land:
The death penalty was commanded for murder, rape, kidnapping, and other serious crimes. However, except for murders, a criminal was permitted to pay a ransom to the victim, rather than suffer an injury to himself (Ex 21:22, 29-30, Num 35:31). It was up to the victim and the judges to determine how much it would be, but it had to be proportional to the crime.
In the New Testament, Christ taught that crimes should not be viewed as an opportunity to collect judgments, but a chance to show love to troubled people:
It was the attitude of believing victims that Christ hoped to change. Governments were still intended to punish criminals (Rom 13:1-3).
Sins Against Me by Other Brethren
Using this three-step formula would save many heart-aches among believers. Only very rarely are all three steps necessary. If another believer has done something to me that I think is wrong, I should talk to him first. If I say .he would not listen., it might be that the matter is too trivial in which case I should let it pass and not complain to others about it. If the matter is worth talking about, I should have the courage to go. When the person realizes that if he does not listen I will ask him to talk to two or three other mature believers about it, he will probably desire to solve it before more people are involved. The final step is taking to .the church. which could be a local congregation, study group, or any other group of believers. While I should never judge another's eternal destiny (Matt 7:1-2, Rom 14:10-13; 1Cor 4:5), I should be willing to help judge current disputes for other believers so they can avoid the courts of unbelievers:
"If any of you [believers] has a dispute with another, dare he take it before the ungodly for judgment instead of before the saints? Do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if you are to judge the world, are you not competent to judge trivial cases?" (1Cor 6:1-2).
This method works for situations as simple as a believer who will not say "hello" to me. They also work when someone has defrauded me in business, is teaching false doctrine, etc. They can also be applied when someone sins against people who I am responsible for children and others who cannot do it themselves.
Believers Sinning Against Others
When we see others that we think are sinning, the human tendency is just to gossip.
Restoring a person means patiently talking to him and helping him out of his sin. The best person to do this is often one who has already had and overcome that particular sin. This is why Paul cautions the helper not to get involved with the sin. This can be a particular problem with alcohol, drugs, sex, etc. If I cannot help the person with a particular sin, I might know somebody else who can, but it should not be my mission just to tell others about it unless they are clearly endangered by it.
It is also important to realize that the Bible gives believers no commission to go searching for sins in others. If another believer has been secretly involved in some sin, and has been delivered from it by the power of Christ, there is no need to find it out or dig it up:
Flagrant Sins Known to the Public
When someone brings a bad reputation upon a congregation because of their open and known sin, they should be asked to leave until the problem is resolved. If I continue to be a member of a congregation (or club, choir, or other Christian group) that does nothing about someone who is sinning terribly, it says to others that .sin does not matter. (Sins in secret may be every bit as sinful, but at least they do not have such a big effect upon others.)
Leaders in a Congregation
The rest of this chapter and Titus 1 give more standards for leaders.most having to do with personal conduct. God.s way of life should be taught because it is good and because it works. God wants his way taught by those who live it, not by slick salesmen who can make it sound good, but who do not have it in their hearts. God sometimes sends us corrupt leaders to test us to see if we will follow God or men (Deut 13:1-3; 2Cor 11:13-15; 1Jn 4:1; Rev 2:2). I should not .go along with the crowd., but follow God.
Watch My Own Sins First